TALKING TO YOUR FOSTER CHILD ABOUT SEXUAL HEALTH
Talking about sexuality may be uncomfortable at first, but it will get easier in time. Being open to discussing sexuality can be challenging. It's common for parents and kids to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable when talking about sex.
Everyday there are opportunities to talk about sexuality. TV shows and commercials that discuss sex offer great opportunities to talk to your child about sex and sexuality. When these teachable moments occur, they can make the conversation easier and more natural.
It is also important to listen to foster youth when they have something to say about sex/sexuality. You don't always have to agree with what you hear, but it is important to pay attention to what they say. It shows them that you are interested in and respect what they have to say.
Below are suggestions on how to answer difficult questions:
Questions and answers courtesy of Planned Parenthood
Q How do you know when puberty is over?
A It can be hard to tell. Some people don't experience all the changes that happen during puberty until they're 20 years old. But it can end earlier than that. Do you have other questions about puberty?
Q How big will my breasts get?
A It depends. Breasts come in all sizes, shapes, and colors. And when they're developing, they change all the time. Breasts can range from small to enormous. Whether yours are lemons or grapefruits, they're normal.
Q Is it true that a girl can't get pregnant the first time she has sex?
A No, that's not true. If you're having vaginal intercourse and not using condoms or other birth control, you can get pregnant — whether it's the first time or the one hundred and first time. That's why most people use birth control the first time they have sex.
Q What's the best birth control method?
A Different methods of birth control are best for different people. That's why it's important to learn about each method of birth control so you can choose the one that best for you.
Q Should people have sex if they're in love?
A Not necessarily. Sex is just one part of a whole relationship. It's just one way to express love. Choosing to be in a sexual relationship is a big decision. There's a lot to think about. And two people can love each other very much without having sex. Do you think you're in love?
Q Does it hurt to lose your virginity?
A Some women experience pain the first time they have vaginal intercourse. That's because they may have a hymen in the opening of their vaginas that gets stretched open during first intercourse and may cause pain and bleeding. Guys do not have hymens, so this is not an issue for them. Do you have other questions about virginity?